Every kid struggles with homework at some time or another but kids with ADHD suffer every day just to get work done. How do I know this? My son has ADHD and I know this nasty beast for all that it is. Now. I will tell you, unlike many others with this diagnosis, my son does not have behavioral issues. In fact, at school he’s an angel according to his teachers (can they come home with him), but home is another matter with behavior. Hubs and I see a child that can be defiant at times despite some of the consequences but normally they do the trick.
School is the biggest hurdle we have. I love my son dearly, but there are times that he and I could go rounds in a rink when it comes to getting his homework done. This evening was no exception. I met with his teacher, known for being a “hard” teacher but an excellent teacher for him. She has gone of experience teaching 4th grade. Her biggest input? The boy is disorganized and already behind. Not what I wanted to hear, but we have a plan.
The assignment notebook is the key. The big thing is basically beating it into boy’s head that this is his school bible and every little thing must be in here. His teacher and I are going to write notes back and forth to make certain work is being done. She’s going to make sure things are sent home too, at least for now. She are going to whip this boy into educational shape.
Step two? Medication. Yes, I tried to see if we could get away without it, but after today’s conference I feel that is a no brainer. Boy needs it to focus on the task at hand and what kind of mother would I be if I didn’t provide him with medication that will help him. Would you not take medicine for your high blood pressure? Exactly. If there was ever a boy that needed help focusing. This is the one.
This is not easy for him or for us as parents. It is painful every day to watch your child go through such a struggle. I’ve always believed that God only gives us the crosses we can bear, so somehow we will all bear this one. It breaks my heart though to think of him struggling when others get the work done so easily. Be is very bright but it is locked away in a disorganized brain. If only I had the key.